the dish on moi

Hola lovelies! So you want the scoop huh? Want to know who I am, where I’m from, what I do? Well, just this one time you’re in luck! I said I’d answer a few questions. (A little fyi, I wrote a bit about me on the about page should anyone ever be interested.)

But here goes.

First and foremost, I’m not sure how many of you are already able to tell, but incase you didn’t know, I’m super shy. Now those of you who actually know me in person and are really close to me might say “yeah right”…but that’s the thing, you’re super close to me. Outside of that, I’m beyond shy. I go to public events and I gladly wibble my way to the back, I go outdoors (which has to be for a purpose) and I am lost in my own little world. I am at church and unless I actually have to do something, I am hidden away in comfort of my own mind or just lost in the sermon. Which is quite funny this year, seeing as though now I have to step out of my shell. It’s always funny when I go to an event and say, I’m Sasha-Shae owner of the blog Afroniquely You, and people go “oooooooooo, wow I know your blog!”. I’m trying my best to this year make myself a little bit more known, I will not be going over board, because when all is said and done, I am very private. But I will try my best to do more videos and more posts that actually include me.

Ok, everyone already (or should) know I am of West Indian background. I’m 24 and love design. I blog and vlog, but my heart lies around crafts and design. College years were spent at Andrews University (which is bittersweet for me). I have many dreams, and I do mean many. Some I have accomplished like this blog and as well a partner site called My Life with Christ, being able to freelance (temporary, prayerfully to become permanent). My goals in life are to be happy and be rooted in Jesus! In doing so, I plan to tackle design projects and any crafty, blogger-centered, even social media related aspects. I’m Christian and take NO shame in saying it. I love how my life has been molded by Jesus’ love for me and how I have grown as a result of my faith in God. A big goal of mine is to use my voice and talents to do Christ’s work in any way I can. The My Life with Christ is one step at that, but there are many other ways I plan to do so. In my spare time, you can catch me writing articles for My Life with Christ, and reading or writing other little tid-bits in general. I am also a huge pinterest fan now (and this just recently began for me). Other than that, I am active in a ton of  community service roles with my church, my school and other things (natural hair, etc).

Oh, I also like to do random crafts. I enjoy doing graphic design projects, and if anyone needs a designer, totally feel free to contact me. I do graphic design work, web, social media, and copywriting.

So the deal on the hair is this: I’ve been natural now since 2007 (June 27 to be exact). I had a relaxer for 2 years, I loved it at first, but quickly hated it. In lieu of missing my tresses with the kink, coil and thick surprise, I decided to cut it off. I did transition, but at that time I didn’t know what transitioning meant. Basically, I suffered through that process, my hair was just falling and having two textures was just urgh!!! So I chopped it off and started fresh! Of-course if you follow my blog you know I just recently cut again in Nov 2011. Afroniquely You blog was created as my personal way to document my journey, then it became my way of sharing what I learned with everyone that might face the same things.

‘So is you single girl?’ I wouldn’t consider myself single, but by definition to be single is to be un-married, so I guess I am (haha). However I am in a committed relationship leading up to marriage :) and great for me, he adores natural hair and loves mine. Allow me to just praise God for a moment. Once upon a time I basically gave up on anything called relationships. I was tired of meeting guys who were either immature, afraid of a girl being smart and knowing what she wants, guys who played games and those just clueless about life. now granted there were a few that actually seemed promising, but there was always something off putting. So I had given up (young as I was) and just thrown that towel in. I always had this thing with God that whomever He pairs me with would be someone that sees mostly eye to eye with myself and that most importantly would be a lover and follower of Christ. It amazes me just how respectful he is of women, how passionate he is about God’s work, and just the person he is and continues to grow to be. Well, prayers were heard and prayers were answered, and God surely has an infinite care even for the littlest of our desires. Because this worked out so well and just us tailored for each other perfectly in so many ways. All in all, while we might have moments of rough drafts that the devil himself tries to use against us, we overcome with Jesus on our side and prayer always a constant tool! If you can’t tell, I’m beyond happy! :)

A motto I think I have always lived by was to be true to myself, and by being true to myself I am being true by God’s standards. I realize when I begin to take things into my own hands, they fall apart, but when I submit them to God they all go together for my good. So I guess the motto is:

stay true to God and He will stay true to you!

Hmmm, hardest obstacle. Well for me, it’s a combination. I am not the type that usually shares my feelings. I am a great listener and I give good  advice, but I dare never really burden anyone with my own issues. That is one obstacle I had to really learn to breakdown, and it became very apparent when I first realized that when you live in an addiction and you have no way out, you have to seek help. but if you constantly feel you can’t trust anyone and keep everything bottled in, then how do you do that? For me breaking down walls (well walls are still up, but a little crevice is made) to share with others provided a much needed release, and prayer and supplication to God was extremely helpful. Overall I realized this: when I was tied down in the cycle of addiciton, I didn’t want to share because I felt I couldn’t trust people and then they would judge me or even hate me, and this lead me to hate even much of myself, and more grow apart from God. But once I realized God wanted me to share with Him and release, I: slowly but surely learned to get over my addiction, learned to draw closer to God, learned it is ok to trust people in some ways, and that little by little the more we relate here, is the more we relate to God himself. <<This for me was a huge growth, but only Jesus gets the praise.

Ok, I think I shared just about all in a nutshell, and with that said, I’ll leave with one note, every girl ought to have a nice bottle of Aloe Vera juice stashed in the fridge. It’s great to use on the hair, on the skin and can be taken internally for a lot of things. Till next time lovelies, be blessed!

~Hope you enjoyed